This past year has redefined me.
I feel my heart’s been changed, my desires, my goals, the perception I have of myself, the world, the things I value, all of it has changed.
I even got a cat.
I think the deepest change starts in the place we can’t reach ourselves, the innermost part of our heart.
We can change how we deal with the things we feel but we can’t change the inherent feeling. Feelings of insecurity, jealousy, envy, pride.
I think that’s where Yah started His work in me.
He brought to light my brokenness, revealed to me…
drunk on indignation
like a raincoat
is just an outfit
worn by the 'weak'
worn to avoid the rain
when the cloud of life
heavy with demands
pours out heavy drops”
i'm not angry
i don't want to sway in
wearing the garment of defense
or take sips
from the wine of indignation
i'm just indifferent
glad they don't see it as i do
a disease cooked in the darkest
the darkest corner of hell
for the days I dared to laugh
for the days I saw the insides of joy
My head is spinning
Spinning around the last drop of rain
In an attempt to preserve it
In an attempt to protect it
In an attempt to have a reason to keep moving
My hands are trembling
A reaction to the wave of silence still in sight
In fear that we might miss the night
Never knowing when the day takes flight
Locked with time out of sight
My feet are weakened
From the constant attempt to move a body
A body that has forgotten the rhythm of movement
But holds tight to the rhythm of worry
A body that has forgotten the touch…
Globally, approximately one in three women experience physical or sexual violence in their lifetime. Thirty percent of women between the ages 15-49 report having been sexually abused in Nigeria. These figures reflect the damaging implications of harmful practices and culture that sit gallantly in certain regions of our country.
The types of violence encircled by gender-based violence comprise sexual violence, physical violence, emotional and psychological violence, child marriage, trafficking, female genital mutilation(FGM), domestic violence, and rape.
Over the years, women have had to swallow their stories of abuse because of fear of stigmatization, disbelief, and ultimately neglect. …
I’m not a fan of chores of any kind. I hate brooms that need me to bend. I like the easiest path in life and hate unnecessary stress.
I think the idea of taking a more difficult path when there’s an easy way just to prove my ‘hard work’ virtuous is ridiculous and a waste of time.
I don’t believe the reward for hard work is more work. The reward for hard work should be rest, long hours of rest.
I’m the kind of person who Googles ‘When will robots become accessible to us?’ because why not.
On most days…
“You have to follow your own voice. You have to be yourself when you write. In effect, you have to announce, ‘This is me, this is what I stand for, this is what you get when you read me. I’m doing the best I can — buy me or not — but this is who I am as a writer.” ~ David Morrell
Out of boredom, I googled ‘movies every writer should watch’ in June and downloaded a few. ‘Poetic Justice’, ‘Midnight in Paris’ and ‘Adult World’. I related most to ’Adult World’. …
“Empathy is seeing with the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another and feeling with the heart of another.” — Alfred Adler
As against my typical routine, I didn’t have a long list of radical goals at the beginning of 2020. Mostly because of how exhausting the activities of 2019 were. I was over all the ecstasy of a new year and just needed to breathe. When people asked me what I wanted for the year, my response was, ‘I just want to be truly happy’
Did it feel like I was diving into a deep pool without…
“Each person’s grief has its own life span; it needs to follow its own path.”
― Rick Riordan, The Tyrant’s Tomb
This month makes it two years since my grandma died. I still see her when my mother is being goofy and gives a freaky big smile, revealing her wide diastema. I hear her when my mother laughs or screams at me for forgetting to do a chore. I still smell her when I visit my grandpa.
I remember the day news of her death came to me in my crib toilet in school. It was Monday and I was…
“We try so hard to hide everything we’re really feeling from those who probably need to know our true feelings the most. People try to bottle up their emotions, as if it’s somehow wrong to have natural reactions to life.”
― Colleen Hoover, Maybe Someday
Few years ago I decided to take a break from Instagram. This was because I couldn’t keep up with the aesthetics and each time I finally made a post I would find myself impulsively refreshing my notifications to check for a new like or comment.
Anytime a post didn’t get as much attention as I…
“The scariest moment is always just before you start.”
— Stephen King
To be honest, I had no idea what I was doing in 2015 when I decided to take writing seriously. Five years later, I don’t still know what I’m doing on most days, but I’m not as confused as I was then. Looking retrospectively, there are a lot of things I wish I never did and things I want to stop doing and that is what this article will be about. Sit tight as we explore five things every writer should avoid like a plague!
My writing journey…